When I filed for divorce from my XNarc, there were apologies, but those lasted sometimes a few days, sometimes only a few hours, before the blasts and zingers would come. It was confusing at first to receive what seemed to be a heartfelt apology, only to be berated a short time later. This quote seems to help restore sanity:
“ACTIONS speak louder than words. We can apologize over and over, but if our actions don’t change the words become MEANINGLESS.”
So remember, repentance needs to be time AND stress tested. The fruit of repentance needs to be visible to all, especially you. The abuse, the control, the manipulation, the blaming, the raging – it all needs to stop. An apology, followed by unrepentant actions, is meaningless.