When going through a divorce with an abusive spouse, it is not a “collaborative” divorce. That is simply not possible. Everything is a battle. Everything. He will not be reasonable or fair. He will not care how you feel. He will have zero empathy for you and for the kids. He will use them as pawns to get what he wants. He will be vindictive and hurtful, and he’ll thrive on it.
Narcissists do not negotiate. They win.
Sooooo…… there will be some days that are really tough. It’s hard to get through the day. It’s hard to put one foot in front of another. It’s overwhelming.
Those are the days when I ask Jesus to help my anxious heart breathe. I pray for God to scoop me off the floor and help me take one step at a time. I pull scripture out of my foggy, fearful brain:
Some days it helps to curl up and read scripture. Other days it helps to go to an Al Anon meeting. Sometimes I text friends: “Pray!” Or I call a friend to talk and/or cry. A friend who is vulnerable, caring and who ‘gets it’ when I say it’s a really hard day…..
You are not alone, dear one. It is tough. This is a difficult journey. Remember to pray and breathe.